Leading the Inner Community
A New Paradigm of Leadership
“A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes and has the courage to develop that potential.” – Brené Brown
Leadership isn’t domination.
It’s not charisma, certainty, or the loudest voice in the room.
Real leadership begins with listening.
Listening to the room.
To the rhythm of others.
To the changing terrain of reality.
To what is—not just what you wish to see.
It means being willing to feel.
To accept what is present.
And to anticipate what may be needed next—not for control, but for care.
In the past, I was part of a network called The_Collective Evolution, where women gathered to explore healing through community. What I learned there was profound—but what I know now is even deeper:
We are meant to lead from within.
Not above. Not ahead. Among.
Nature has always known this.
Early studies of deer herd movement, conducted by male biologists, assumed a single dominant male—the “alpha”—led the group.
But a female biologist, watching more closely, saw something different.
She noticed each deer looking up, tuning in, communicating through subtle signals before the presumed leader moved. The herd didn’t follow commands.
They decided together.
The real leader? Was the collective.
Lead Your Body
Your body is not a machine.
It is a miracle—a living, breathing ecosystem of intelligent cells, each fulfilling a sacred role.
Some conduct electricity through your nerves.
Some craft hormones, moods, and movement.
Some digest and protect. Some feel, grieve, or love.
You are the one who holds this orchestra together.
Your body responds to your voice, your thoughts, your intentions.
Are you leading it with love and respect—or ignoring it until it breaks down?
To lead your body means to listen.
To nourish.
To guide with clarity and compassion.
To respond to its signals before they become screams.
To show up for yourself—even when it’s hard.
When you lead your body with reverence, you begin to feel the way forward—not just think it.
Lead Your Family
Family is your first community—biological or chosen.
And often, you’re the one holding it all together.
You sense what’s needed.
You navigate the emotional tides.
You’re the listener, the organizer, the inspirer—the quiet force making sure everyone is okay.
But… who leads you?
Leading your family doesn’t mean carrying everything alone.
It means knowing when to act, when to pause, when to ask for help—and how to stay rooted in your own truth.
It means cultivating a home where clarity, communication, and care belong—not just for others, but for you too.
What would shift if you brought the same leadership skills you use at work into your home—with grace and boundaries intact?
What would it feel like to lead your family… without losing yourself?
What if leadership started not with action, but with alignment?
Lead Your Community
True leadership radiates outward—but it must be rooted in inner coherence.
If your internal world is in survival mode, your leadership in the external world will eventually burn out.
We are entering an era that needs feminine leadership—not just women in positions of power, but women leading from a place of deep embodiment, heart-centered vision, and intuitive intelligence.
Leadership in this new era is not about hierarchy.
It’s about harmony.
It’s about coherence.
It’s about listening and leading simultaneously.
We must learn to lead as the deer do: in attunement with one another, with the Earth, and with the future we’re weaving together.
⚠️ The World We Lead
Let’s not sugarcoat it:
If the United States were a body, it would be inflamed, exhausted, overmedicated, drowning in debt, and numbing itself from the pain of its own dysfunction.
Our systems—healthcare, education, the economy—are faltering.
Our children normalize trauma.
Our food is poisoned.
Our spirits are polluted.
We scroll, shop, and sedate to avoid the discomfort of collapse.
I hoped COVID would wake us up. It didn’t.
“Don’t worry, it will get worse.”
It’s something I’ve told my patients when they resist doing what they know will help them heal.
And eventually, when things get worse, they do take action.
Or… they don’t.
We are nearing that tipping point.
The question is: Will we choose to lead our healing? Or wait until it’s too late?
It Starts With You
Leadership isn’t about perfection.
It’s about alignment.
You don’t need to lead the world.
But you do need to lead your inner one.
And that starts with rest.
With reconnection.
With remembering who you really are—and why you're here.
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Riane Eisler writes about two forms of power - domination and partnership. Much of this post talks about the latter, which speaks to engagement, and getting-to-know, and listening to all voices.
The structures of Haudenosaunee (Iroquois) culture are ones set in place by The Peacemaker, a figure I've seen mentioned from two historical times, the more recent also involving Hiawatha, and critically a less well known woman, Jinonhsaseh, who would provide food and a place to sleep to anyone, as long as they left their weapons outside. [her story is told various ways: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Peacemaker || https://www.onondaganation.org/history/ || https://powwowtimes.ca/the-great-law-of-peace-haudenosaunee-confederacy/ ].
The clan mothers were the ones who chose the male leaders, warned them if they were behaving improperly, and removed them if the did not heed their warnings.